How to start changing an unhealthy work environment | Glenn D. Rolfsen | TEDxOslo



Do you think backbiting is happening at your workplace or place of study? Glenn Rolfsen’s talk is about what contributes to a toxic …

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26 thoughts on “How to start changing an unhealthy work environment | Glenn D. Rolfsen | TEDxOslo”

  1. I find it helpful to exude a healthy persona upon both the workplace environment and coworkers/management and especially customers and patrons if that is the case. This means cleaning and organizing the workplace out of one’s own proactivity in addition to maintaining upbeat and cohesive relationships with personnel in appropriate ways.

  2. I’ve been at my job for 5 years and I’m skilled at what I do and all my fellow workers would say the same of me. But every person that walks into the building is placed above me for higher positions because they are friends with the boss or know a fellow higher up. I’ve been very depressed and discouraged. I consider my job my home away from home. 5 years I’ve given this place but haven’t been moved up even after being told by countless time I work hard.

  3. Absolutely do not waste time with toxic people in life

    I m experiences with my current project and clients.

    Its bullying toxicity people.
    Dont waste our energy and time in. Life

    Life is tooo short

  4. From what I have seen there are good reasons for most gossip. If there are problems the workers naturally talk. I think the best solution is to solve the problems, then the gossip will subside.

  5. It comes down to how people handle themselves in all parts of life, not just at work. Sadhguru explains these things better than I can.

  6. Sometimes coworkers vent to each other. Who else will understand the environment & those in it besides your coworkers? I didn’t say bully or start rumors but converse over issues within the job.

  7. Backbaite explained why it’s forbidden it’s side effects in general you will be amazed Surah al-Hujurat
    12. O you who believe! Avoid most suspicion—some suspicion is sinful. And do not spy, nor backbite one another. Would any of you like to eat his dead brother’s flesh? You would hate it. So reverence Allah. Allah is the Acceptor of Repentance, the Mercy-Giver.

  8. قال الله تعالى (يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اجْتَنِبُوا كَثِيرًا مِّنَ الظَّنِّ إِنَّ بَعْضَ الظَّنِّ إِثْمٌ ۖ وَلَا تَجَسَّسُوا وَلَا يَغْتَب بَّعْضُكُم بَعْضًا ۚ أَيُحِبُّ أَحَدُكُمْ أَن يَأْكُلَ لَحْمَ أَخِيهِ مَيْتًا فَكَرِهْتُمُوهُ ۚ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ ۚ إِنَّ اللَّهَ تَوَّابٌ رَّحِيمٌ)
    O you who have believed, avoid much [negative] assumption. Indeed, some assumption is sin. And do not spy or backbite each other. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his brother when dead? You would detest it. And fear Allah; indeed, Allah is Accepting of repentance and Merciful.

  9. There was a girl at my work who just had a massive ego. She always had to be in charge, centre of attention, ring leader of a work place click. Everyone just wanted to be in the click. Made it really awkward and horrible atmosphere to work in. Literally didn’t ever acknowledge me or listen to anything I had to say. This happened over I’d say a 6 month period since she got promotion. She never shut her mouth to let anyone speak, I could always feel the awkward atmosphere. So in the end I pulled her aside and confronted her told her how it is and told her to stop I ain’t having it anymore. She apologised and stopped. Ever since then she has been a completely different person in every way. No more ego or so it seems. In a sense I fixed her and fixed the workplace environment for every one. I’ve never told anyone in work that this conversation happened. Although this person would speak to the click and tell them everything or we’ll I guess she may have. If anyone got this far and has a similar issue I’d say confront the person on a 1-1 without anyone else around, tell them how it is. I’m sure it will resolve. If not I’m not sure maybe it’s time to leave. If it didn’t work for me I’d have gone senior management but if that didn’t work I guess I would have left.

  10. Where I worked, the manager had secret microphones planted everywhere! Talk about potential problems, yet it was mandated from 'on high' in order to avoid problems. In the end, it both created problems as well as prevented others.

  11. I think it might be important to distinguish gossip from talking things over with a supportive friend – I feel like it’s not gossip if the person you’re talking to doesn’t know the person you’re talking about…because it’s healthy to talk about the issue especially if you are also working out solutions, and no one’s feelings get hurt because they don’t know each other

  12. Very wise and good teaching! It’s why I never was in the past a backbiting person on any human of any age. My PARENTS never talked, spoke, or whined about anyone in front of us kids. In honesty yes I have become a back bitter in retaliation within my current community due to over worked under pressure work amoug heavy users of bank bitting. Literally every employee and 70% of the customer base are backbiters. I have been unwilling submerged by the mental/emotional ugliest place i have ever resided. I took my bull by the horns and now work from home to stay away from such disease. Backbiting uncorrected becomes like a cancer. I’m not free of it, i just will not work submerged in it to make others happy. I am able to be whom I really am once again.

  13. Those 3 things are the metrics that I use when I decide to share content on social media!!!

    1) Is it true?
    2) Is it kind?
    3) Is is necessary?

    If it’s any of those three, you can bet I’m sharing it. Life is too short to not share truth and good things with others.

    The fact that most people just talk about others is why I don’t talk to people most of the time! They just talk about others—I don’t want to do that. If they talk about others when they aren’t there, they’ll talk about you when you aren’t there. This usually happens in small circles/environments with both adults and peers

    I go to work, do my job and go home. The end

  14. I do not back bite and am suffering from it now at work, the MAN is the one doing it.
    Men tend to do it in order to crush people to establish dominance and superiority.
    The do it to hurt others, not to share and try to solve anything but to hurt and crush another human being

  15. Hmm, this feels like a very shallow talk. I think it uses the buzz-phrase "toxic work environment" but then doesn't offer any real meat on that issue – no stats, no evidence, no studies. And he conflates distinct ideas, and to me, seems to lack valuable, high perspective wisdom on this.

    For example: he's entirely missing the power dynamic context, which drastically changes the meaning of 'gossip' or 'backbiting.' If employees are being cheated by bosses, then those workers complaining to each other is not gossip or backbiting, and shuttign them down isn't actually morally okay. He even uses the word "bullying" and yet doesn't bring in the importance of this element of power differential to this subject. Bullying is downward punching. Backbiting is a bit more lateral. Gossip is a separate thing entirely. He doesn't seem to understand that at all, sowhy is he give a TED talk about it?

    He also makes no distinctions for different business contexts, which have differing levels of dependency on accurate critical assessment. Some biz contexts need back-n-forth engagement, honesty, and regular input/feedback review more than others. Hospital teams work differently than warehouse or software sales or insurance or non-profits. Culture matters. This guy doesn't get that at all.

    But in most contexts: without a well supported system for assessment and honest feedback in DIRECT routes, this kind of barricading of the INDIRECT feedback routes is simply a gag order, decreed from on high, to protect the reputation of dear leader. And yes, it can feel short term good for the CEO who wants those squeaky wheels gone: anyone who wanted to feel heard just leaves or fades into silence.
    But that's not always good for the company. Mostly gag orders just aren't effective, and instead signal rather loudly that "this leader is having control issues" — to me, the over/under on these kinds of gestures is extremely doubtful.

    To me, they're like those hokey motivational posters: they signal a LACK of business acumen. Though it should be a good red flag to anyone applying for a job there: if you see a problem, say nothing, they have no system to deal with it. Pretend it's okay, because the alternative is you'll be seen as a toxic downer.

  16. Unless you are in management or a leadership position, in my experience your best option is to leave. Too many times we are asked to deal with drama or put up with it, when management needs to do their job to fix it.

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